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Pattern of a Pattern
Internal work and growth (often referred to as shadow work) is noticing patterns/behaviours/tendencies of ourselves that we don’t necessarily like. We see these situations that we’re in over and over again *cough cough ex’s and in-laws cough cough* and we want to get out of the habit of being in a pattern because they are not helping us live our best lives or causing unnecessary drama.
All of our outside situations are trying to get us to reflect inward to a pattern we need to take personal responsibility for.
Examples of behaviours or patterns playing the victim/blame-game, martyr tendencies, avoiding responsibility, self-sabotaging, etc.
Once we see what we’re doing it’s impossible to unsee it and there’s a lot of us that want to be perfect and immediately stop this action. We want it to be a light-switch of immediately stopping the behaviour or tendency.
Working through a pattern and helping let it go is a pattern within itself. Let’s use dating as an example:
We start to see what really happened after we’re done(seeing red flags after the date is completed and you’re analyzing it)
then we start seeing it while you’re in the middle of it (seeing red flags but staying for dessert)
then we see it when we’re about to do it (say you’ll go for a date and then cancelling it because you know it isn’t what you should be doing)
then we stop it before it even happens (actually reading the bio…
